"The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts"

Juggling school, friendships, family, and everything else that fills our days as teen girls can feel like a constant balancing act. Between assignments, social media, and after-school activities, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, like there’s never enough time. Finding ways to manage stress and keep life balanced is essential—to survive and enjoy these years. I’ve been through it, and today, I want to share a few things that have helped me find balance, hoping they’ll bring you a bit calmer and confidence, too.

1. Setting Boundaries Isn’t Selfish, It’s Smart

One thing I used to struggle with was saying “no.” I thought saying yes to everything would make me seem more involved or likable. But guess what? Overcommitting is exhausting and doesn’t leave much energy for anything else. Setting boundaries has been a game-changer.

For instance, I used to be on every group chat, even the ones I wasn’t interested in, just because I didn’t want to miss out. But now, I’m okay with leaving conversations that don’t add value to my life or simply silencing notifications when I need to focus on something else. It may seem small, but setting boundaries—even on your phone—gives you space to breathe and think.

2. Prioritizing Tasks with the “Top Three” Rule

We’ve all had those days where our to-do lists feel endless. Here’s a little trick that has saved me: I choose my “Top Three” tasks each day. These are the three things that, if completed, will make me feel accomplished. Breaking down the day into manageable pieces helps me avoid overwhelmed feeling.

For example, if I have a big test coming up, that’s one of my top tasks. Then, maybe I add an assignment due the next day and one self-care activity, like journaling or stretching. By focusing on just three things, I feel less scattered and can make actual progress. And trust me, it feels good to check those boxes!

3. Understanding the Power of “Me Time” (And Actually Taking It!)

Let’s be real, it’s hard to carve out time just for yourself when there’s always something to do or someone to talk to. But I’ve realized that “me time” isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity.

One way I incorporate “me time” is by setting aside at least 10-15 minutes daily for something relaxing. For me, it’s a quick walk, a few pages of a good book, or even listening to music with my phone on airplane mode. During this time, I’m not responding to messages, scrolling, or doing anything for anyone else. It’s my reset button, and it keeps me from burning out.

4. Learning That It’s Okay to Ask for Help

Growing up, I used to think that handling stress was something you had to do on your own, like it was a sign of strength. But one day, when I was completely overwhelmed by a project, I finally asked for help from my mom. And you know what? She was more than happy to lend a hand.

Whether it’s a friend, teacher, or family member, reaching out for support doesn’t make you weak. If anything, it’s a sign of self-awareness. Now, when I’m feeling overwhelmed, I make a point to talk it out instead of bottling things up. Sometimes just saying things out loud can be enough to ease the tension.

5. Turning Social Media from a Stress Source to a Resource

Social media is… complicated, to say the least. It can connect us with friends, but it can also stress us out, especially when it feels like everyone else is living their best life 24/7. I’m still learning to manage my social media habits, but I’ve found a few things that help me keep it positive.

Firstly, I make sure I’m following accounts that inspire me rather than make me feel inadequate. Accounts that promote self-care, wellness, or just make me laugh are my go-tos. Secondly, I set daily time limits. Sure, it might sound restrictive, but it actually gives me more freedom to focus on real-life stuff.

6. Dealing with FOMO in a Healthier Way

FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is real, and it used to rule my life. I’d constantly check my phone, wondering if I was missing out on something fun. Over time, I’ve learned that it’s impossible to be everywhere and do everything. And that’s okay.

If I miss a hangout or an event, I remind myself that there will be more opportunities. Plus, when I’m constantly jumping from one activity to another, I end up missing out on the joy of the present moment. Being intentional about my time has helped me feel more grounded and less worried about what everyone else is doing.

7. Moving Your Body to Release Stress

I’m not a sports fanatic, but I can’t deny that moving my body helps me feel better. You don’t need to do a full workout to reap the benefits of exercise. A short walk around the block, stretching, or even dancing around your room can make a difference.

Physical activity doesn’t just keep your body healthy—it also helps clear your mind. I’ve found that even on my busiest days, a quick stretch or some fresh air does wonders for my mood and energy.

Taking It One Day at a Time

Balancing school, friends, and life can be tough, but with a few simple adjustments, it’s possible to find that balance. Remember, it’s okay to say no, to ask for help, and to take time for yourself.

As the cofounder of the Utpat Foundation, I’m passionate about promoting wellness and awareness for young girls and women. Through our nonprofit, we work tirelessly to create educational workshops and online campaigns that address essential issues like stress management, menstrual health, and overall wellness.

Together, let’s build a supportive community where every girl feels empowered and informed about her health and well-being. Join us at the Utpat Foundation to connect, learn, and grow together on the path to wellness. If this resonates with you, check out more tips on kaanchiutpat.blog and connect with us.